Speak before you think?

You are busy. You are stressed out. You are tired. You are hungry. Someone says something you weren’t expecting and are too frustrated to think about. BAM. You overreact. 

It’s easy to react, but nearly impossible to take it back. 

Reactions are key in how you are perceived by others. Your words, body language, and even your breathing are all accounted for whilst being interrupted. Your reactions happen so naturally and fast, that often you do or say something you truly do not mean. Yet the deed is done, and boy after someone overreacts it is hard to forget. 

This world now moves so fast that we have instant everything. We expect things to be instant. For example, when our internet doesn’t download a page in a second we are frustrated by the slowness. In the same token when speaking to someone we expect an immediate answer. 

Slow down, take a moment. Think before you speak, and act, and allow others the same courtesy. BAM. Your much happier, with yourself and others. 

The good, the bad,...the truth

We all have bad days. 

It’s easy to forget that. 

It’s easy to think only you have hard things going on, and that other peoples problems are not as important. 

A few days ago I had an experience that opened my eyes. Someone once treated me with little respect and was fairly mean to me. It was the first and only time I had met this person. (Not a great first impression). So when I saw this person again, I immediately had a negative feeling toward her. Yet I was in such a great mood and having such a good day, I thought “Well just kill em’ with kindness”. So I did. There was no need, this person seemed completely different and was so nice I thought maybe she had a twin. So I thought about it and slowly that night I realized that everyone has bad days. 

Sometimes we take our hardships out on other people. Sometimes intentionally, but more often not. And usually when we do, we regret it later. That doesn’t justify the behavior. Perhaps it can but help you next time someone is rude, short, or even plain mean to you. Just remember they most likely will regret it later, and don’t mean it now. Try not to let it get to you.

Everyone has bad days, even you.